The Biblethumper Circle of Cope and Gaslighting
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**Source**: [The Biblethumper Circle of Cope and Gaslighting](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ)
**Channel**: Pearl
**Published**: June 9, 2026 | **Archived**: June 11, 2026
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**Video**: [The Biblethumper Circle of Cope and Gaslighting](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ)
**Channel**: Pearl
**Published**: June 9, 2026
**Duration**: 15:41
**Views**: 18,593
**Category**: Entertainment
**Video ID**: `Xc3KZOB_bfQ`
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## Transcript — YouTube panel (human-authored)
[`0:00`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=0s) All right. What's up, guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel. Welcome to my coffee talks. Uh, today I'm actually um doing this video from London. One of my good friends uh blessing got married. I don't know if you guys remember him on the channel, but if you want a black pill, even the men that have helped uh produce the divorce documentary, they still want to get married. So, um just know that somebody will do it. But actually, his wife is actually very beautiful and nice. So, gave me a little hope. Um, I'm sure it'll be squashed later, just like all the hope we have in this world, but you never know. You never know. Okay.
[`0:38`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=38s) So, I wanted to talk a little bit more about the church series I'm doing where I go to churches and I interview um religious leaders and people at the church about what they believe um on obedience and submission. To me personally, um I think that churches are kind of full of \[ \_\_ \] um in general, most of them, not all, not all. I do respect um people's beliefs and their ability to think different. However, I think if you don't believe in obedience to your husband in all things, uh it kind of devalues marriage and you're kind of promoting a partnership. And my issue with uh most churches is that they circumvent male authority because the woman is not obedient to the man. Um she's obedient either to the rules or to the pastor instead. So, what happens is a lot of um sexually inexperienced pastors um I think that's just kind of the type like it's not usually playboys that become priests and pastors. Um I think it's very difficult for men to not to not be manipulated by women unless they've
[`1:42`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=102s) really slayed some \[ \_\_ \] You know, I hate to say it, I'm just being honest. So, what happens is the women nag the pastors and nag their husbands. And even in the more Orthodox churches, um I've noticed that when you ask the the priests or the deacons or whatever, do do should the women follow God or follow the man even if he wants to convert or he's not following God according to you?
[`2:09`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=129s) And really, when you peel back the layers, the answer is no. Now, I know on its like on its surface, you know, you're thinking, well, you can't ask her to commit a crime or whatever. And I was thinking yesterday, I'm like, "Well, what would be wrong with that?" Like, obviously it's um immoral, right? I mean, on on paper immoral, but isn't it kind of romantic? Isn't that kind of every man's dream to have a woman that you know, if if you have a body, she's helping you bury it. She's helping you bury it. But Pearl, but Pearl, that's not realistic. Bonnie and Clyde, my ninjas. That's why we love Bonnie and Clyde because Clyde said, "Look, you got to leave your family and ruin this whole town." And she said, "Well, wherever you go, I'm going to follow. I love you." Where the church, the Orthodox women said, "But priest, is that in the Bible?
[`3:02`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=182s) Ninja, please." You know, and um I was even thinking about it a little further. And that's why I'm like, I need to kill this dream. I saw the comments section. They're like, "Are you becoming orthodox?" I'm not. Um, again, I have respect for the faith. I think they're better than some religions. But to me, if you can't unequivocally say um that if the woman disagrees with the pastor, she should listen to her husband. That makes the most sense to me. Um, it's his wife. He's going to take the fall for her when he gets to heaven. God's God's going to be like my ninja.
[`3:45`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=225s) Uh she obeyed you and you took her straight to hell. I bet go I bet to me I feel like God would understand. He'd be like all right ma'am this way. Um but I got to talk about the circle of cope from religious people. Um now again this is not to mock the faith or be but um I've noticed when I when I as an interviewer you kind of notice patterns of like speech and I've noticed that people um defend their church the same way they defend women. So uh people don't like to be honest about the true nature of women. So there's a circle of cope. It's like not all women are like that. So that that's number one. They they go to me and they say, "Pearl, it's just the Miami girls or the London or the city girls you interview." And I'm like, "Okay, let me go to the churches."
[`4:33`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=273s) Then, um, it's okay. Well, it's just those women. Oh. Um, and then, you know, a woman that got married young comes out that she's getting divorced. And it's like, well, what about that woman? Um, then they get angry. They start saying, "I'm just a doomer. I'm black." fil because they can't accept the true nature of churches and or sorry of women. And I think it's the same with churches. People can't accept that whenever you have a group dynamic, you have sexually experienced men, sexually inexperienced men and women.
[`5:07`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=307s) And women are going to run to the sexually inex women are going to run to the sexually inexperienced men to police the sexually experienced men and the men that are um uh like above I guess you could say or like they don't fall to female nature. I I find it very rare that a man doesn't fold um if he's not sexually experienced. It's just my opinion. Um so what happens is they say not all churches are like that and all of these points they do the same thing um for women. So you say women are like this they say not all churches are like that. Then I go to their church in particular um our church is similar and um the answers are the same and they tell me well it's just the girls at the church you're interviewing. They're like you should have interviewed the other girls at my church. And I'm like okay this is the biggest cope I've ever I went to your church. Um, so and it's the same thing. They say, "You should interview the girls over there." And I I go and I interview them and they say,
[`6:06`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=366s) "Well, it's just the race. If you just got white women or the social class, you got trashy women." Same thing with the churches. Um, if you just got the more devout women. I'm like, "What what age did you guys get married? 18, 20? Oh, 27, like the rest of us, but you're above female nature. Oh. Oh, it can never happen to you. You know, and that's why you guys, I'm just I like the idea of religious people, but sometimes it's almost like talking to somebody that's so naive.
[`6:43`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=403s) Um, I can always tell I think I can always tell when someone had a masculine father. I interviewed a guy yesterday who I could tell in his voice he did because men with masculine fathers tend to speak with um less fear and they're more realistic because father women are unrealistic. Fathers are realistic. So uh there was a guy at Twitter space yesterday. I I don't know if he had a dad but I can almost hear it in a man's voice because he said um he'll say things like oh yeah I mean look I'm still married but it could happen to me. Feminism is in the church. That's a realistic man.
[`7:19`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=439s) That's realistic. It's not um the cope which is it's not real. Right. So then you they tell me it's the way I'm conducting the interviews. Pearl. It's just the way you're asking these questions. You're so disrespectful. You came with a sign. You can't you can't expect people to talk to you with a sign. What? \[gasps\] Pearl. You're being combative. I'm like, "No, I'm not." Oh, okay. Well, um, then they attack you as a person, right?
[`7:57`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=477s) They say, "Are you a believer?" Now, this is just another way for Christians to say they're better than you. I would rather just cut to the chase and say, "Okay, you're better. I'm worse. I'm terrible. You're not terrible." They try to qualify their morality and be the judge. Um, as if they have the authority to judge my faith. So, um, if I don't shove my faith in your face, uh, like a lot of them do, now I'm just not good enough. Um, or they try to qualify your personal life. Are you married? Where's your kids? Um, even though a lot of the people that do that, they lose their wife and kids later. I've had like three influencers that did that to me. None of us have families now. Welcome to the club. Um, then they call you a fornicator even though they did the same thing.
[`8:46`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=526s) Um, and usually the things they're calling you like when the Sarah Stock Elijah Schaefer thing, they both went on the show and started \[ \_\_ \] on me and I'm like you guys were doing the same thing. This is so common. Um, so they do the you are not moral some implication they are better than you because of morals. Um, it's are you a Christian or stating that they're a Christian. Um, then they go into the you don't have authority to judge me.
[`9:14`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=554s) Then they quote uh random Bible verses like to prove they're smart. So they say, "Oh, do you know this specific story or this specific scripture?" And obviously the Bible's long like no I don't. Um, and then this I'm just I'm letting you guys know why you're annoying. You know, not all of you. There there are devout ones. There are great ones. I'm just saying in general, the reason people hate Bible thumpers and it's like, okay, so if I don't know this exact scripture, you're smarter than me, you're better than me, can we just move on? Can we if I just say that, can we move on to the the question? Um, demonstrate they know a lot by going on a tangent about something no one cares about while offiscating the question, quizzing you on your knowledge in some way, resorting to authority, which is the police, law enforcement, or kicking you out.
[`10:04`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=604s) So coping means to cope is to effectively deal with, manage or overcome a difficult situation, responsibility or emotional stress. It implies but suggests that the person is generally managing, enduring or adapting to the circumstances. So instead of saying, hey, maybe we should teach better, have some standards, kick these \[ \_\_ \] out of church, um, and admit the church has flaws, right? We're going to blame the red pill. These are the two options, right? Admit flaws, blame pearl, blame red pill.
[`10:36`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=636s) admit flaw. You know, it's kind of the same thing. Um, it's the reason people hate eg girls, right? Ladies, let's just say we're all \[ \_\_ \] I'm so tired. You know, saying that we're all \[ \_\_ \] requires some humility. But instead, the eg girls say, "I'm not a \[ \_\_ \] I have nudes on the internet. I have nudes on the internet, but I only had one long-term boyfriend. I'm not a \[ \_\_ \] I'm not a \[ \_\_ \] I married at 20 23. I'm not a \[ \_\_ \] But were you a virgin on your wedding day?
[`11:13`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=673s) Well, uh, you doomer pearl ninja. What age were you when you got married? Well, but that was the best one of my favorite moments in my career. I had three e girls, right? And by the way, this is nothing. I have no I'm not judging. I'm not judging. But objectively, one been one had been divorced, okay? One had um promiscuous photos on the internet, and they all play the trap. One girl got married young but went to a big college, right? We all know where that goes. And also um waited like a decade to have kids. And we all know what that means when you wait a decade to have kids uh with a guy you met, you know, a guy you married.
[`12:01`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=721s) you know, it's not really a Christian marriage if you're waiting till 31 like the rest of us. You know what I mean? Um, so anyways, and I and I asked, "Were any of you virgins on your wedding night?" And it it was like the \[laughter\] because here's the thing by saying, "Look, it we all hoes three foes. None like we're all part of this mess." Um, that's why people hate Bible thumpers and egirl. And I and I totally understand it because they are constantly moralizing that they're better than you and they're not in any way, shape or form. Again, this is not all if it doesn't apply to you, let it fly. But even the fact that I have to say that, right? Even the fact that throughout this video, I have to say it's not every single one. Like, okay, when I do a video about redheads, like if I say redheads are crazy, you know, there's a lot of, you know, stereotypes, we don't have souls, whatever. Nobody
[`12:58`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=778s) has to. You always know you're dealing with a terrorist when everyone has to constantly defend their reputation. So like if you say, um, "Oh, but my mother, she's a really good woman. I know she's the worst woman. Oh, but my mother, you know, I love my mom, but when you always have to say, uh, I love my wife, but that's a terrorist because they can't handle anything negative being said said about them, and they can't they try to control the universe." Um, and that's that's how I know a lot of religious people I'm dealing with terrorists because I have to say I have to constantly say it's not all it's not all of you. It's not every single one. Like if you said redheads are crazy, I don't need you guys to say it's not every single one. I just know it because all these other \[ \_\_ \] are on anti-depressants and guess who's still standing? They call me crazy, but hey, I'm not on drugs.
[`13:59`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=839s) So, yeah, ladies, that's why they hate us. Um, and we they also hate right-wing e girls because um I constantly just have to take your word, you know, and and the you know, I had one there's one e-girl that kind of backhandedly talks \[ \_\_ \] about her ex-boyfriend and says like, "Oh, um, I just couldn't submit to my like previous relationships because I like and insinuating they're not masculine. What if they said they what if those guys came out and said they couldn't lead you because you were just too much of a big fat \[ \_\_ \] You know, that wouldn't feel too good, but I have to take your word and not get to hear his side of the story. So, anyways, um that's why I don't really see myself being religious. I find it interesting. I'm excited to do more interviews. Yesterday, the gay church thing was kind of crazy. Um, that was like an older Methodist church.
[`15:03`](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc3KZOB_bfQ&t=903s) So, I don't really like hearing about I don't like being gaslit. So, if you guys say my church isn't like that, I will go to your church and find out. No, I'm not going to give you a warning because that would defeat the whole purpose. Pearl, go to the go to my church and interview the specific patrons I want you to interview. That'll give you the right answer. Ninja, if I can't ask anybody in your flock, then your flock isn't that good. I mean, this is incredible. So anyways, that's the circle of hope Christians go to go through. I love you guys. I'll be back uh tomorrow. So I might be back to streaming Wednesday or Thursday. Um thanks for watching. And I love you guys and I'll see you next
